A sister's birthday
Maybe it is because I was unable to cry in those early days. Maybe I am just cracked...or cracked open. But I cry on these days of remembrance. Yesterday would have been Liz's 55th birthday. I was cleaning out my recipe boxes and binders, trying to make sense of what I have been stuffing in there willy nilly, and I came across Liz's handwriting. There she was, mingled with Mom and Natalie, with the yeast roll recipe in the hand of a grandmother I never met. There was a fudge recipe from Dave...I haven't spoken to Dave in thirty years. Memory lane drove by in a generic white binder.
But nothing is safe when your heart is cracked open. There's the petal pink blow dryer that became mine that autumn of '93. Mom's White Linen slaloms up from folds of silk scarves. Cards stained by oil and vanilla evoke memories of holidays and of voices echoing around a kitchen whose address I cannot bring to mind. I can't even clean the bathroom without thinking of Liz. When I was very pregnant, she came to clean my house, but she only got through the bathroom; it was a very small bathroom. She spent hours in there, door closed, little exacting sounds seeping out from under the door. She oiled, she micro-scrubbed, she scraped and bleached and I have no idea what, and she made my bathroom the cleanest thing I have ever seen. And every time I clean the bathroom now, twenty-two years later, I wonder what in the heck was she doing in there all that time. And it makes me smile, even as I bypass the deep cleaning for a book or a camera or a nap.
You'd think I would have thought of Liz as I watched my mom's life breath leave, but I think of her more in the company of a bottle of bleach or as I roll out fresh paint and make a marred wall a fresh canvas.
It's been nineteen years, and yet I still look, still wish. Maybe I am cracked, or cracked open. Or maybe I am simply longing for eternity.