Thursday, December 30, 2004

Wilson A. Bentley (1865 - 1931)

A favorite children's book of mine is Snowflake Bentley, written by Jaqueline Briggs Martin, and illustrated with Mary Azarian's woodcuts. It is about the life of Wilson Bentley and his work studying snowflakes and ice crystals.

"In the days
when farmers worked with ox and sled
and cut the dark with lantern light,
there lived a boy who loved snow
more than anything else in the world."


To find out more about Mr. Bentley, see the January issue of Smithsonian Magazine. The article "Freeze Frame" is about his life and work. I think his curiosity and determination are amazing.

"Bentley seemed willing to pursue his arduous work - over the years he made pictures of thousands of snow crystals - not with any hope for financial gain but simply for the joy of discovery. Nicknamed Snowflake by his neighbors, he claimed his pictures were "evidence of God's wonderful plan" and considered the endlessly varied crystals "miracles of beauty."

Gerontology practicum

I studied gerontology in college. When I graduated in 1990, I was thirty years-old and seven months pregnant with our oldest child. Rather than pursuing grad. school, I made the decision to stay home and raise our children. (Side note: I have never regretted that choice.) In the next three years I had three children. My focus was not on the elderly but on babies and toddlers. Two more children came in the following six years, so the focus on the younger set continued.

That all changed in the autumn of 2002. My mother, living three hours away, was needing to move to a less expensive area. The San Francisco Bay Area is no place to live on a fixed income, unless you are fixed with lots of zeros at the end of your monthly check. My mother spent forty-six years on the peninsula, and familiarity and security were found for her around every corner. Her Episcopal church was a huge part of her life and brought her an opportunity for giving and receiving for all those years. She started there as a young mother, weathered the storm of being the first divorced woman on the block, and then continued to serve in every imaginable arena, local and regional. But, the jig was up, and it was time to move.

I was a gerontology student. I was prepared for this, right? Just like all of you child development majors were ready to raise children, right? (Go ahead and wipe the coffee off of the monitor from your cynical guffaw. We'll wait.) I was not prepared, but I have weathered the storms so far. Having my mother live in our granny flat has become one of the most satisfying parts of my life, even though moving her was a nightmare. The lessons Mom and I have learned, are learning, will learn, will find their way to the pages of A Circle of Quiet on a regular basis.

For now, there are three books that I have read in recent years that have been helpful:

Another Country: Navigating the Emotional Terrain of our Elders, by Mary Pipher, Ph. D. (yes, she wrote Reviving Ophelia. Not a fan of Ophelia; greatly appreciate Another Country.)

This book helps see the experience of aging from the elderly's perspective. It is far too easy to get firm ideas of how someone should respond to aging; it is another thing completely to take the time to hear their side of the story.

As Parents Age: A Psychological and Practical Guide, by Joseph A. Illardo, Ph.D., L.C.S.W.

Some discussion on aging in general, but mostly very practical information:
impact on the family, mental illness, helping a parent stay in their home, when a parent must leave home, end-of-life decisions, and when a parent is gone. Very helpful in anticipating what might be ahead.

In The Checklist of Life, by Lynn McPhelimy

A book of blank lines: places for social security number, doctor names, financial information, real estate details, family memories, and things like, "Where did you get the china hutch?" 138 pages of blank lines for the person that keeps all the details of their life in their own head.

This remarkable author had the unthinkable happen -- both parents had terminal cancer - at the same time. She listened to what they needed to say. Her mother had lots to say, her father wanted to make sure that she knew where the septic tank was so that the yard wouldn't get all dug up. Oh, this comparison could easily be me and my husband someday. It sure made me smile.

Now, a bit of a caveat: I loved this book and bought it for my mother several years ago. She was the only one that could tell me that the hutch used to be my grandmother's, or where I could find her will or her checkbook. We were not getting along well (I had no idea how ill she was feeling at the time), so my delivery of the book was characteristically blunt: "Mom, this is a book for you. If, when you are gone to glory, I find that this book is empty, I will know that I can do whatever the heck I want to with you and your stuff, okay?" I was frustrated, and understandably so.

When she moved two years later, I found the book, spine facing the back of the bookcase, in some sort of defiant posture, and perfectly empty. Well, since she moved, she feels remarkably better. Now that I know she loves a good decaf. mocha, we can sit with some steaming mugs and talk. We might even fill in the blanks that are really important to her. She has seen the shadow of death, in the days right before and after she moved, so she is more willing to accept the reality of the future. I, on the other hand, am willing to work with the limitations of the present. Finally, after a forty-five year relationship, we are learning to be a good team.

Robert Frost (1874-1963)

Mending Wall

Something there is that doesn't love a wall,
That sends the frozen-ground-swell under it,
And spills the upper boulders in the sun,
And makes gaps even two can pass abreast.
The work of hunters is another thing:
I have come after them and made repair
Where they have left not one stone on a stone,
But they would have the rabbit out of hiding,
To please the yelping dogs. The gaps I mean,
No one has seen them made or heard them made,
But at spring mending-time we find them there.
I let my neighbor know beyond the hill;
And on a day we meet to walk the line
And set the wall between us once again.
We keep the wall between us as we go.
To each the boulders that have fallen to each.
And some are loaves and some so nearly balls
We have to use a spell to make them balance:
'Stay where you are until our backs are turned!'
We wear our fingers rough with handling them.
Oh, just another kind of out-door game,
One on a side. It comes to little more:
There where it is we do not need the wall:
He is all pine and I am apple orchard.
My apple trees will never get across
And eat the cones under his pines, I tell him.
He only says, 'Good fences make good neighbors'.
Spring is the mischief in me, and I wonder
If I could put a notion in his head:
'Why do they make good neighbors? Isn't it
Where there are cows?
But here there are no cows.
Before I built a wall I'd ask to know
What I was walling in or walling out,
And to whom I was like to give offence.
Something there is that doesn't love a wall,
That wants it down.' I could say 'Elves' to him,
But it's not elves exactly, and I'd rather
He said it for himself. I see him there
Bringing a stone grasped firmly by the top
In each hand, like an old-stone savage armed.
He moves in darkness as it seems to me~
Not of woods only and the shade of trees.
He will not go behind his father's saying,
And he likes having thought of it so well
He says again, "Good fences make good neighbors."


Stopping by Woods on a Snowy Evening

Whose woods these are I think I know.
His house is in the village, though;
He will not see me stopping here
To watch his woods fill up with snow.

My little horse must think it's queer
To stop without a farmhouse near
Between the woods and frozen lake
The darkest evening of the year.

He gives his harness bells a shake
To ask if there's some mistake.
The only other sound's the sweep
Of easy wind and downy flake.

The woods are lovely, dark, and deep,
But I have promises to keep,
And miles to go before I sleep,
And miles to go before I sleep.



A Word a Day

A favorite discovery over the last year is A Word a Day, a service that drops a vocabulary word in my in-box each morning. This week's words are those that describe people, and the first four are:

operose: 1. tedious, diligent, 2. requiring great effort
reprobate: noun: a wicked person, verb: to disapprove or condemn
renitent: resistant; recalcitrant
pinguid: fat; greasy; unctuous

Oh, pinguid is a perfectly dreadful word, isn't it?

To guarantee at least one email worthy of perusal each day, you can subscribe here: A Word a Day

Wednesday, December 29, 2004

Tsunami disaster relief

I will never forget the day I returned from a week-end in Lake Tahoe to a surreal message from my mother on the answering machine. My sister had been in an accident; would I call her please? The news that my sister's accident was fatal changed my life forever.

That experience is still with me, eleven years later, as I read the news of the rising death tolls in Asia. Knowing that each of the 80,000 plus victims was a unique person, with a story of their own, makes the news a bit blurry as I try and read.

I am working to find out the status of friends that live in Thailand, and a cousin that lives in India. They live in areas safe from disaster, but we are still researching to be reassured that they were home at the time.

Thanks to our friends at Mental Multivitamin, we found this link to provide financial support: Red Cross relief

Also, we were given a gift yesterday of a donation to Samaritan's Purse, a Christian international relief organization that we have used before. They are collecting relief funds for their work in Sri Lanka and Indonesia. If you wish to send support through Samaritan's Purse, check this link: Samaritan's Purse


Tuesday, December 28, 2004

When will it end?

Lord of the Rings: Risk

Thanks to Auntie S., we will find out...someday.

Wendell Berry

Wendell Berry is the author of essays, poetry and novels. He has worked a farm in Henry County, Kentucky since 1965. He is a former professor of English at the University of Kentucky and a past fellow of both the Guggenheim Foundation and the Rockefeller Foundation. He has received numerous awards for his work, including an award from the National Institute and Academy of Arts and Letters in 1971, and most recently, the T.S. Eliot Award.

Some favorite books:

Essays
What Are People For?

Home Economics

Life is a Miracle

Poetry
A Timbered Choir

Fiction
Fidelity

Jayber Crow

An interview:
Field Observations: An Interview with Wendell Berry
by Jordan Fisher-Smith

"As we begin to descend, I am thinking about boyhood and Berry's poetry, and I ask Berry if he agrees that school children should be reintroduced to the lost institution of memorizing and reciting poems.

'Yes," he replies, "you've got to furnish their minds.'"

Berry makes me uncomfortable in some of his essays, he soothes and inspires me in his poetry, and his thoughts on family, faith, education and technology resonate in my soul.

Monday, December 27, 2004

The Priority that is Coffee

"I would not like to get between a Nazgul and his prey, but I would rather do that than get between Mama and her coffee." 13 year-old son

Hmmmm.....

Sunday, December 26, 2004

My Christmas Collage



Old friends and new have joined our collection of books and movies. Hours of quiet joy are ahead of us (or are already behind us on this day after Christmas.) Some will return to Middle Earth, others will attend to the intellectual life of the Christian faith, and one dear person intends to keep us supplied in apple pies as long as the provisions hold out.

Special thanks to anneofgreencurtains for the recommendation of Letters from Father Christmas, by J.R.R. Tolkien. This is a collection of letters that Tolkien penned to his own children, complete with his own illustrations. We love it.

Also, thanks to Writing and Living for the recommendation of
The Scandal of the Evangelical Mind . That, and
Habits of the Mind: Intellectual Life as a Christian Calling, is keeping our Christmas Break Man very happy.

Hidden just outside the bottom left-hand corner is a lovely scarf that my daughter made for me. It is an elegant black and cream, and it is the most beautiful scarf I have ever owned. Made by my own daughter's hands. Wow!

A new book and a homemade scarf...it doesn't get much better than this.

Pie making, in a mobcap, is heaven on earth for one little girl.

To Middle Earth, again

Friday, December 24, 2004

Christmas Eve

Our annual tradition on Christmas Eve is to have a "traveling feast" on the upstairs deck. We eat in the cold, bundled in our winter coats, and reflect on the fact that Joseph and Mary were journeying to Bethlehem so many years ago. As one who had to drive over very (VERY) bumpy roads in labor, I read the part about the donkey and I have to wince. It must have been an amazing evening.

Now, a little secret, just between us bloggers. I started this tradition because I didn't want to cook on Christmas Eve. I love creating traditions for my family, we all like to dress up to make ordinary days extraordinary, and so -- we made a simple meal of crackers and cheese into an event. I get to take a break from the kitchen (allowing more time for lattes and books -- aaah!) and we have many, many years of memories on our deck in the cold. It's a win - win - win situation.

The candles and crackers are this year's traveling feast. The cider was poured, the toasts were made, and we were grateful to come scooting in to the warm fire when our meal was complete.

We wish you and yours a very Merry Christmas!


A Christmas Eve Feast

On the Morning of Christ's Nativity

John Milton (1608-1674)

I

This is the month, and this the happy morn,
Wherein the Son of Heaven's eternal King,
Of wedded maid and Virgin Mother born
Our great redemption from above did bring;
For so the holy sages once did sing,
That he our deadly forfeit should release,
And with his Father work us a perpetual peace.

II

That glorious Form, that Light unsufferable,
And that far-beaming blaze of majesty,
Wherewith he wont at Heaven's high council-table
To sit the midst of Trinal Unity,
He laid aside, and, here with us to be,
Forsook the Courts of everlasting Day,
And chose with us a darksome house of mortal clay.

III

Say, Heavenly Muse, shall not thy sacred vein
Afford a present to the Infant God?
Hast thou no verse, no hymn, or solemn strain,
To welcome him to this his new abode,
Now while the heaven, by the Sun's team untrod,
Hath took no print of the approaching light,
And all the spangled host keep watch in squadrons bright?

IV

See how from far upon the Eastern road
The star-led Wisards haste with odours sweet!
Oh! run; prevent them with thy humble ode,
And lay it lowly at his blessed feet;
Has thou the honour first thy Lord to greet,
And join thy voice unto the Angel Quire,
From our his secret altar touched with hallowed fire.

Thursday, December 23, 2004

My view


July, 2004

The Soundtrack for Christmas

We have been late in pulling out the Christmas music this year, partly because we were enjoying our previously noted Thanksgiving CD. Today I was busy with lunch preparations and asked my eight year-old to put on some Christmas music to accompany my work. "Something pretty, please." She chose: James Galway's Christmas Carol and I was not disappointed. Patapan and Jesus Christ the Apple Tree are my favorites. The flute and the choral music are a beautiful combination.

Tuesday, December 21, 2004

Laughter is the best medicine

The crew at A Circle of Quiet would like to heartily recommend to you The Muppet Christmas Carol, starring Michael Caine as Scrooge, Kermit the Frog as Bob Cratchit, and Miss Piggy as Cratchit's wife. I, however, will need to watch it again. I was busy watching my children's faces as they had their first introduction to muppets. My view was priceless -- they loved it.

Enjoy.

The Muppet Christmas Carol

The HMS Perspicacity

On my kitchen counter right now is a huge piece of butcher paper. It is a very large drawing of a frigate that my children have named the HMS Perspicacity. (Definition: perspicacious -- of acute mental vision or discernment: KEEN syn see SHREWD. What a great word.)

Despite our strong conviction and enjoyment of studying history chronologically, we are drifting from the Middle Ages and finding our interests floating out to sea during the Napoleonic wars. First we got our toes wet with Master and Commander, both the book by Patrick O'Brian and the movie of the same title. Then, we jumped on board and set sail with Horatio Hornblower, in print (C.S. Forester) and on film. Now, I am reading a biography of Horatio Nelson, and the children are pulling out a favorite book on ships to draw their own frigate. I surrender -- the seas of the Napoleonic wars will be our history studies for January.

Some links:

Sailing Ships: A Lift-the-Flap Discovery

Horatio Hornblower dvds

Mr. Midshipman Hornblower, C.S. Forester

Master and Commander: The Far Side of the World

The Complete Aubrey and Maturin Novels

Nelson: Love and Fame

The Midshipman Quinn Collection, S. Styles

A disclaimer: Please do not assume that the recommendations I link on A Circle of Quiet will be appropriate for all audiences. Use your good judgement!

Monday, December 20, 2004

Nineteen years ago today...

...there was a young man and a young woman on a beach in Montara, California. The sun had set, the picnic dinner had been delicious, and they were talking about their recently discovered differences. The young man concluded the discussion with, "Well, that doesn't seem insurmountable. Want to marry me?" At first the young woman thought he said, "Isn't it a merry evening?", (Hey, those waves were LOUD!) but it became clear that The Question had been popped. An enthusiastic "yes" was the answer, and here we are nineteen years later.


Sigh. I sure am glad that I said, "YES!" To have a man that cries when Eomer finds Eowyn on the Pelennor Fields, who makes my morning coffee, who works hard to provide for our family, who loves learning and reading and discussing, and who laughs at my jokes... Plus, when the rubber has met the road (those make-it-or-break-it moments in a marriage) he has stood his ground and fought for all that he held dear, like a good man of the West. Cheers to you, husband. I celebrate you today.

Sunday, December 19, 2004

Sleep in heavenly peace

I have slept a total of twenty-two hours since Friday night. Oh, it feels divine. I am ready for two weeks of holiday cheer -- children coming up with a few more gifts to give, my own "staff" working (children baking and knitting, cleaning and raking, and younger siblings at work as "court jesters" with just as much skill and talent) and my husband being home. The grown-ups have some hard work to accomplish, for the faithful companion of the English teacher is a pile of papers, and my own school year will require some planning to bring zip to a not-so-zippy school year. But, we have the time, and the energy, and the inspiration, to do our work with zeal. That is a fine thing.

I look forward to HOURS outside, HOURS sleeping, HOURS reading, and HOURS of playing with my children. We have football games, long walks, cards, board games, movies, and (of course) books on our list of TO DO's. What luxury, what riches, what bliss.

The king has returned

"Mr. Frodo, look! There is light, beauty up there, that no shadow can touch." Sam


"Farewell, my brave hobbits. My work is now finished. Here, at last, on the shores of the sea, comes the end of our fellowship. I will not say, 'Do not weep,' for not all tears are an evil." Gandalf


Good thing it was okay to cry. We watched, in our jammies, and had a splendid time. We cried, and laughed, and sighed. Our only complaint: More in the Houses of Healing, please! I guess we need an Extended of the Extended edition.

Friday, December 17, 2004

Phew...

IT'S CHRISTMAS BREAK! WE MADE IT! Viral warnings have been lurking around our home this week...a sore back here, a raspy throat there. We just needed to make it to tonight, and WE DID IT. We are terminally linked to the academic calendar, thanks to my husband's employment as a school teacher, and Christmas Break is one of the true and lovely advantages. (Not to be confused with the mythical benefits of leaving work at three each day, and having "the whole summer" off. I won't bore you with that soapbox...today. Just trust me -- it's not true.)

So, we are set for our Return of the King extravaganza, with special thanks to cousin A. who sent a tin FULL of popcorn and sugar treats to add to our tea and lattes. Thanks, A.

The rest of the break will be filled with books, movies, family celebrations, and rest -- plenty of rest. Sometimes you just have to stop, and I have every intention of doing just that for a few days.

The Roar on the Other Side

"Poetry starts with silence - not silence in the world but silence of mind."

"To write you must learn quiet. This is hard, because the world we live in is loud."

"Noise, of course, is not a bad thing. But stillness needs a larger room than most of us give it. By making decisions to read a good book instead of watching TV or take a walk instead of playing a video game, you are enlarging this room. Writing poetry will add floor space and a skylight."

"There is more to seeing than observing details, which is what scientists do to gather information. They look to see what is there in order to make factual statements or predictions. But the poet's lens is more like a prism than a telescope; more like a kaleidoscope than a microscope. For the poet takes bare fact and clothes it with meaning. The poet hears the roar on the other side of silence."

The Roar on the Other Side - a guide for student poets
by Suzanne U. Clark

Emily Dickinson (1830-1886)

'Hope is the thing with feathers'

Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune without the words,
And never stops at all,

And sweetest in the gale is heard;
And sore must be the storm
That could abash the little bird
That kept so many warm.

I've heard it in the chillest land,
And on the strangest sea;
Yet, never, in extremity,
It asked a crumb of me.



'There is no frigate like a book'

There is no frigate like a book
To take us lands away,
Nor any coursers like a page
Of prancing poetry.
This traverse may the poorest take
Without oppress of toll;
How frugal is the chariot
That bears a human soul!

Thursday, December 16, 2004

A sobering look at teen drug use

...Not your idea of quiet time contemplation? Well, it's mine...

Drugs and youths. Not a new subject, but it sure has a different look about it these days. From my vantage point (non-user) in the seventies (graduated in 1977), drugs were used for the high, the thrill, the escape. The current use of steroids and anti-depressants in the teen population reveals concerns of a different nature.

Steroids are a mystery to me. We are sports fanatics around here, and have followed the achievements of Barry Bonds and his home runs because we love baseball. But, the shadow of steroid use over the whole world of baseball/olympics/sports-in-general ruins it, at least for me.

Anti-depressants are more complicated. I have not personally battled depression, but those I love have. I am deeply grateful that their lives have been helped with carefully prescribed medication. But, how are these medications impacting children (yes, I think teens are children) and what is happening in our culture to create such confusion and misery?

Even though I am the mother of two teens (and three future teens) I am still completely unaware of the pressures the young people in these articles are feeling. We have our share of angst, attitude and navel contemplation around here, so don't misunderstand me. Maybe these unhappy days are ahead, but I hope that we can fend off the cultural messages that might pollute our children's thinking and cloud their decision making. I hope they can remember that they are known and loved, by the very God that created them for great things.

Toxic Strength, Newsweek
"An authority on youth sports, Dr. Jordan D. Metzl of the Hospital for Special Surgery in New York, calls steroid use "a burgeoning epidemic." The annual "Monitoring the Future" survey by the University of Michigan's Institute for Social Research suggests that the rate of steroid use by high-school students increased throughout the 1990s before dropping off slightly in 2003; a NEWSWEEK analysis of the data indicates that last year more than 300,000 students between the eighth and 12th grades used steroids. And they were not all jocks; as many as one third were girls, and experts say there is a growing problem of steroid use by boys whose heroes aren't baseball sluggers but the sinewy, rock-jawed models glowering from the pages of the Abercrombie & Fitch catalog. This development led to the recent introduction of a new psychological diagnosis, muscle dysmorphia (sometimes called "reverse anorexia"). For teenagers who use steroids, the side effects may begin with severe acne and run through hair loss, infertility, male breast development, violent mood swings and paranoia. And, in an unpleasant irony, steroids can stunt growth and cause injuries that could end the very career they were intended to enhance."
(Regarding testing for steroids:)"And even if they were looking for it, they would miss the increasing number of cases of steroid use that don't involve athletes at all, but students who simply believe they don't measure up to what an American boy ought to look like—an image they probably formed playing with their G.I. Joe action figures, around the same time their sisters got their idea of female body shape from their Barbies."

"Could it really be that decades of education aimed at boosting the self-esteem of normal teenage girls has just transferred the body-image problem to boys? Or is vanity simply too deeply ingrained in human nature to eradicate, merely shifting its form and locus with the times?"


Casualities of the Drug Lords, Touchstone

"On June 27, 2004, the Boston Globe published a story about the suicide of 16-year-old..."

"The causal connection between antidepressant drugs and teen suicide is suspected rather than proven, but the Food and Drug Administration issued a warning about it the month after Kaitlyn’s suicide. Great Britain, citing the suicide risk, has banned most of the drugs for young people."

"Kaitlyn seems to have needed two kinds of guidance. At a practical level, she needed to learn how to set boundaries in her personal relationships and how to terminate relations with a person who would not respect those boundaries. At a spiritual level, she needed to learn that people exist for a purpose, and that periods of unhappiness are normal low points that can be overcome and need not prevent any individual from leading a gloriously fulfilling life."

"But materialist biology encourages the assumption that we live in a purposeless world in which the goals of life are reduced to the pursuit of pleasure on the one hand, and the avoidance of pain or insecurity on the other. When youth have been educated to see the world that way, the misery and anxiety of an insecure sexual relationship can make their lives seem not worth living."

Happy birthday, Ms. Austen

1775 - Jane Austen is born in the parsonage of Steventon, Hampshire.

A Book of Days for the Literary Year
Edited by Neal. T. Jones


Tuesday, December 14, 2004

While we were waiting....

"But, where our hearts truly lie is in peace and quiet and good tilled earth. For all hobbits share a love of things that grow. And yes, no doubt to others, our ways seem quaint, but today, of all days, it is brought home to me, it is no bad thing to celebrate a simple life."

"I will take it. I will take the ring...though I do not know the way."

"I wish the ring had never come to me. I wish none of this had happened."
"So do all who live to see such times."


In preparation for the Saturday film extravaganza, we are reviewing our love of films #1 and #2 in the Lord of the Rings trilogy. Fellowship, without a doubt, is the favorite. Great quotes, and oh! the goosebumps when the Gondor theme weaves its way into the Council of Elrond scene. The first glimpse of Aragorn (love the pipe) and the heartwrenching attempt at farewell between Sam and Frodo ("I'm going to Mordor alone, Sam." "I know, and I am coming with you." And, "He said, 'Don't you leave him Samwise Gamgee,' and I don't mean to.")

Oh, to be or to have a friend such as Sam.
The Fellowship of the Ring, Extended DVD

Thanks...

In October of 2003 the word blog became known to me. My introduction to this world of cyber-communication was Mental multivitamin. Mrs. Mental multivitamin had been a source of inspiration on another forum, so her thought-provoking writing caused me to take a peek. Well, I've chosen to return again and again for countless reasons. We share many interests, and I find myself drawn to those things we have in common. We also have many differences, and I have found my world expanded by her well-written thoughts. From Mental multivitamin I have found out about the Set Daily Puzzle , A Word a Day , and River Crossing. I have read articles from magazines and newspapers that never would have crossed my desk, and I have found new authors and books to keep me company. Not always a place to feel comfortable, but always a place to learn, Mental multivitamin is a truly worthwhile destination. Thanks, M'mv.

Sunday, December 12, 2004

Only two more days...

"Well, this is the end, Sam Gamgee," said a voice by his side. And there was Frodo, pale and worn, and yet himself again; and in his eyes there was peace now, neither strain of will, nor madness, nor any fear. His burden was taken away. There was the dear master of the sweet days in the Shire.

"Master!" cried Sam, and fell upon his knees. In all that ruin of the world for the moment he felt only joy, great joy. The burden was gone. His master has been saved; he was himself again, he was free. And then Sam caught sight of the maimed and bleeding hand.

"Your poor hand!" he said. "And I have nothing to bind it with, or comfort it. I would have spared him a whole hand of mine rather. But he's gone now beyond recall, gone forever."

"Yes," said Frodo. "But do you remember Gandalf's words: Even Gollum may have something yet to do? But for him, Sam, I could not have destroyed the Ring. The Quest would have been in vain, even at the bitter end. So let us forgive him! For the Quest is achieved, and now all is over. I am glad you are here with me. Here at the end of all things, Sam."


After (impatiently) waiting, we are ready to celebrate the final installment of The Lord of the Rings movies, the extended DVD version of The Return of the King. Hitting the shelves on Tuesday, we are uniting in solidarity with our favorite husband/dad and waiting until Saturday to watch. Agony. Gnashing of teeth. But, said gentleman will keep the DVD safe in his desk at work. We just can't be trusted to honor our commitment. Boy will Saturday chores get done in record time, though. As soon as that vacuum cord is flung inside the Hoover, we will grab our eggnog lattes and cocoa, fill our bowls with popcorn (and our pockets with kleenex) and watch our friends, the little heroes, do the bravest of things.

The Return of the King, Extended DVD



This Season's Soundtrack

Thanks to our friend A.G.W., this music has provided hours of peace and pleasure since mid-November. Our recommendations won't always be this tranquil, but it fits the screenplay of life at this moment in time.

Thanksgiving: A Windham Hill Collection


Marley was dead, to begin with.

"Oh! but he was a tight-fisted hand at the grindstone. Scrooge! a squeezing, wrenching, grasping, scraping, clutching, covetous, old sinner! Hard and sharp as flint, from which no steel had ever struck out generous fire; secret, and self-contained, and solitary as an oyster. The cold within him froze his old features, nipped his pointed nose, shrivelled his cheek, stiffened his gait; made his eyes red, his thin lips blue; and spoke out shrewdly in his grating voice. A frosty rime was on his head, and on his eyebrows, and his wiry chin. He carried his own low temperature always about with him; he iced his office in the dog-days, and didn't thaw it one degree at Christmas."

A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens


Thursday, December 09, 2004

Quiet - Defining Our Terms, Part II

Free from noise or uproar, continued...

Noise, of course, is not just something we hear; there is something inherently negative in the word. The sound of my children's voices, my husband's tires crunching on the gravel at the end of a long day, or the whirring of the coffee grinder promising dark roasted refreshment...these are the most beautiful of melodies. In contrast, noise is the ring of the telephone just as the head of the table says, "Let's say grace." Or, our occasional lapses into self-pity, complaining or nagging. Sometimes, though, the noise is just a rattle of unsettledness in my own head. Thoughts don't come easily or clearly, and they seem stuck in some sort of mental muck.

In the tempestuous ocean of time and toil there are islands of stillness where man may enter a harbor and reclaim his dignity.
I Asked For Wonder
, A.J. Heschel

Heschel is speaking here of the practice of the Sabbath, but can we not block out times for short, brief, "islands of stillness" amidst whatever fills our days? It is not essential for survival, but survival is not my goal. I am aiming higher.

Wednesday, December 08, 2004

Quiet - Defining Our Terms, Part I

quiet adj 1. a:marked by little or no motion or activity: CALM b:GENTLE, EASYGOING 2 a:free from noise or uproar : STILL

Quiet is a tricky word. Do I mean silence? Well, let's put this in perspective. I have five children, and we do our living and educating here in our home. Plus my mom lives next door. Think specifics here: Washing machine runs how many times a day/week? Dishwasher runs how many times a day/week? Toilet flushes. Piano practiced (x three students x thirty minute daily practice x six days a week.) And don't forget the barking dog, the ringing telephone, the singing and laughing and crying and correcting and chanting and almost always talking. We are NOT speaking of silence here.

Easygoing? Trust me, I am not.

Little or no motion or activity? Missing my point completely.

Calm? Getting warmer. Gentle? Oh, I hope so.

Free from noise or uproar? Aaah - now we are getting somewhere.

More later...

Read from some humble poet...

The Day Is Done
by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

The day is done, and the darkness
Falls from the wings of Night,
As a feather is wafted downward
From an eagle in his flight.

I see the lights of the village
Gleam through the rain and the mist,
And a feeling of sadness comes o'er me,
That my soul cannot resist:

A feeling of sadness and longing,
That is not akin to pain,
And resembles sorrow only
As the mist resembles rain.

Come, read to me some poem,
Some simple and heartfelt lay,
That shall soothe this restless feeling,
And banish the thoughts of day.

Not from the grand old masters,
Not from the bards sublime,
Whose distant footsteps echo
Through the corridors of Time

For, like strains of martial music,
Their mighty thoughts suggest
Life's endless toil and endeavor;
And tonight I long for rest.

Read from some humble poet,
Whose songs gushed from his heart,
As showers from the clouds of summer,
Or tears from the eyelids start;

Who, through long days of labor,
And nights devoid of ease,
Still heard in his soul the music
Of wonderful melodies.

Such songs have power to quiet
The restless pulse of care,
And come like the benediction
That follows after prayer.

Then read from the treasured volume
The poem of thy choice,
And lend to the rhyme of the poet
The beauty of thy voice.

And the night shall be filled with music
And the cares, that infest the day,
Shall fold their tents, like the Arabs,
And as silently steal away.

Monday, December 06, 2004

A Circle of Quiet

A Circle of Quiet
by Madelaine L'Engle

This is a favorite book of mine, and one I am grateful to have read before I had children. The time that I take for thinking and staring and quiet is very important to me, not only for myself, but for how it impacts those I love. Whether thinking quiet thoughts, or using the quiet to wrestle with more troubling issues, my life is enriched and my relationships strengthened by my time away.

"If I sit for a while, then my impatience, crossness, frustration, are indeed annihilated, and my sense of humor returns."

"Only a human being can say I'm sorry. Forgive me. This is part of our particularity. It is part of what makes us capable of tears, capable of laughter."

"The shadows are deepening all around us. Now is the time when we must begin to see our world and ourselves in a different way."

Welcome to A Circle of Quiet.



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Books


The Current Challenge




As I began compiling this season's reading list, I couldn't help but wonder what the next three months will hold. Will sickness come again, providing me with a little extra time for light reading? Will my mother be needing me more often, allowing me time to read as I wait for her in the parking lot or at the doctor's office? Or, will the sunshine come and the chirping birds call me to dig and plant and be outside? I have no idea. But, I am making my list and checking it twice; looking ahead makes me excited about people to meet, mysteries to unravel, authors to love (or not.)

Why this list? Well, there are practical reasons, such as I own them, or the library has them, or they are on CD and can be listened to as I attempt to have daily time on the treadmill. There is also this list that reminded me of missing pieces in my personal canon. School studies came to bear more than usual, but I decided not to carry over undone books from last season's challenge list. They might rear their little heads from the bedside bookshelf, but they are not becoming official members at this point.


Amazing Grace in the Life of William Wilberforce by John Piper



Amazing Grace: William Wilberforce and the Heroic Fight to End Slavery by Eric Metaxas


Saw the movie. Twice. It inspired me to learn more about a man who was willing to work hard to fight for justice.

The Canterbury Tales by Geoffrey Chaucer

I decided to join my son and daughter in their Great Books reading this spring. This is my choice for Great Books 3.



Great Expectations, Charles Dickens

We started this on CD on our trip to Seattle; I look forward to the story of Pip continuing on the treadmill in the mornings.

Henry IV, Part One, Shakespeare
Henry IV, Part Two, Shakespeare

My oldest and I have been curious about Falstaff in Henry V, so we are heading back to Henry IV to get acquainted, and to see Prince Hal in his rowdier days.

Orthodoxy by G.K. Chesterton

I have decided to choose at least one Chesterton each season. I've been working through this movie, and they emphasize the importance of Orthodoxy in the Chesterton collection. It is a volume I have started before, but I am determined to read it all this time.

Reading Like a Writer by Francine Prose *begun*

I chose this simply because the titled intrigued me.

Republic by Plato *begun*

This is my choice from my son's Great Books 1 reading.

Whose Body? Dorothy Sayers
Clouds of Witness Dorothy Sayers
Crocodile on the Sandbank Elizabeth Peters

Every honest list of planned reading in my life must include some mysteries. I have read some of the Peter Wimsey mysteries, but not these. I have never read Elizabeth Peters, and she's been recommended by friends for years.


Continuing on a semi-daily basis

The Intellectual Devotional: Revive Your Mind, Complete Your Education, and Roam Confidently with the Cultured Class by David Kidder, Noah Oppenheim

The Oxford Book of English Verse Edited by Arthur Quiller-Couch



These final three have been recommended by Seasonal Soundings. I have enjoyed author Mindy Withrow's book review blog and look forward to reading these with thoughts of including them in my children's history studies:

Peril and Peace: Chronicles of the Ancient Church
Monks and Mystics: Chronicles of the Medieval Church
Courage and Conviction: Chronicles of the Reformation Church
(all by Brandon and Mindy Withrow)



So, what are you reading these days?
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How the Winter Reading Challenge worked out in the end:

Jane Austen by Elizabeth Jenkins
Charles Dickens by G.K. Chesterton
Standing by Words: Essays by Wendell Berry
Christian Reflections by C.S. Lewis
The Whimsical Christian by Dorothy Sayers
The Collected Works of G.K. Chesterton, Volume 20 (Includes Christendom in Dublin, Irish Impressions, A Short History of England and more)
The Man Who Was Thursday by G.K. Chesterton
Bee Season by Myla Goldberg
About A Boy by Nick Hornby
Gilead by Marilynne Robinson
Housekeeping by Marilynne Robinson
The 36-hour Day: A Family Guide to Caring for Persons with Alzheimer Disease, Related Dementing Illnesses, and Memory Loss in Later Life by Mace and Rabins
ADD-Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life by Judith Kolberg and Kathleen Nadeau
*minimally helpful. Seemed like a commercial for a professional organizer, which is something I refuse to need.
Small is Beautiful: Economics as if People Mattered by E.F. Schumacher
The Intellectual Devotional: Revive Your Mind, Complete Your Education, and Roam Confidently with the Cultured Class by David Kidder, Noah Oppenheim
*Still reading. Still loving*
The Oxford Book of English Verse Edited by Arthur Quiller-Couch
*Still reading. Still loving*


Some that were added to the list:

Keeping Faith by Schaeffer and Schaeffer
It Doesn't Take A Genius by McCutcheon and Lindsey
Persuasion by Austen
Sister Bernadette's Barking Dog by Kitty Burns Florey
Phineas Finn by Anthony Trollope

Reading for a sick mama (because the Chesterton essays were too heavy to hold...how sad is that? Well, and I just wanted some brain candy.)

The Rose Rent by E. Peters
Leper of St. Giles by E. Peters
The Right Jack by Margaret Maron
Baby Doll Games by Margaret Maron

Eighteen down. Five left. Two still being used on an almost-daily basis.

For three months that included the holidays, two speech tournaments and all the icky sickness that came after both of them, I am pleased with my accomplishment.


Books Read in 2007 (eventually will include links to amazon.com)

Keeping Faith by Schaeffer and Schaeffer
It Doesn't Take A Genius by McCutcheon and Lindsey
Persuasion by Austen
The Rose Rent by E. Peters
Leper of St. Giles by E. Peters
Sister Bernadette's Barking Dog by Kitty Burns Florey
Bee Season by Myla Goldberg
About A Boy, Nick Hornby
ADD Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life by Kolberg and Nadeau
Housekeeping by Marilynne Robinson
Gilead by Marilynne Robinson

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